Tuesday, 31 May 2011

The Thin Line Between Hope and Despair

The following is a couple of interviews that I did with my friend Tommy McGuigan (once in June 2010, the other in February 2011). Tommy is, in some ways, a microcosm of the thin line between hope and despair in the part of East Manchester where we both live.

I've included these on my blog in date order so that you read the oldest interview first, then the latest...

June 2010


Tommy McGuigan is one of the last residents of the old Toxteth Street estate, an area of Higher Openshaw in East Manchester which is currently being re-modelled.



The area, which was the filming location for comedy East is East and its sequel, West is West, as well as certain episodes of Coronation Street and other programmes, is one of the last traditional estates in the city to have the cobbled alleyways Manchester and Salford were once famous for.



Some other residents have moved to new housing elsewhere, others are already in the first wave of newly-constructed homes which will eventually be the revamped estate. But Tommy and a handful of other residents are the last men and women standing in the old houses.



Pete Askew, a local youth and community charity, interviewed Tommy recently to discuss the end of one era, the start of the next, and his hopes and fears for the future.



He moved here in December 2001, and his first impressions were very bad, “There was a lot of violence on the streets, it was very run-down housing, with people coming and going every month or two”



“It’s only the last few years”, he continues, when the area has become quieter, as people have moved elsewhere”.



Tommy is aged 47, and his aim, at the time of arrival in Openshaw, was “to stay a couple of months then move on.” He adds, “I would have left a long time ago if I hadn’t met friends with people from the Eden Project and found myself less isolated”.



Having made some key friendships, this made a difference, but Eden people cared for him as friends, without conditions.



When asked about the future of the neighbourhood, Tommy is hopeful of a better future for the neighbourhood and its people. “The old properties are coming down, new ones are going up, and I hope to move into the new Toxteth Street Estate, hopefully a 2-bed apartment.”



So what does Tommy think of the new houses and apartments? “They look pretty nice,” he replies, “I’m waiting for the next phase [of construction] to be completed, but communication from the current housing association [Adactus] is rare – in fact non-existent”



Any what will it take for Openshaw to be successfully regenerated? Tommy offers 3 practical but challenging suggestions:

Firstly, the community residents “need to be more sociable, with street parties and the like bringing people together”. Second, local agencies and groups need to “work and plan together, keep their promises and try to preserve the sense of community, not scattering residents far and wide”. Finally, Tommy recommends a “stronger police presence – a local bobby on the beat – and more residents groups in addition to those such as Friends of Delamere, to help local people address these issues alongside the police and organise community events”.



Seeing this as a chance of a new start, Tommy, a regular volunteer for local project Justlife, adds, “When my health improves, I hope to find a new job”. Currently quite depressed in his existing house, the regeneration will be like a new start for Tommy, and bring fresh motivation in life.

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February 2011

Since the last article, we move forward 8 months and things have moved on somewhat for Tommy McGuigan.



One of the last residents of the old Toxteth Street estate in East Manchester, which is currently being re-modelled, Tommy is now living in neighbouring Abbey Hey, in a rented flat which is further from his local friends and his base for volunteering, but which is in slightly better condition.



Tommy tells me that he moved off Silverdale Street 4 months ago and is now struggling to heat his poorly-insulated new house with the benefits available to him. Tommy has still not found work, though his contacts with local job agencies have some possibilities in the pipeline.



His job search has been made complicated by a recent relapse in his alcohol recovery, and lack of money to put credit on his phone. Potential employers are not patient if they cannot contact someone, understandably.



It is still a tale involving lots of waiting for Tommy.



Tommy tells me that all the promises made to him about the regeneration of the estate have been broken. I ask for an example, and Tommy gives 3: -

  1. “They promised to keep me and my neighbours together, and this hasn’t happened”
  2. “The timescale promised for people being moved [permanently into the new houses on the remodelled estate] has not come good”.
  3. “They promised to send regular updates to me and other residents about what is happening, and I’ve heard almost nothing”.



I ask who “They” are, and Tommy is less clear. It sounds like the Local Authority and developers. And whilst Number 3 above is simple, the reasons behind broken promises 1 and 2 are much more complex.



As far as can be told, the planned redevelopment of the estate, which involved consultation phases over several years, was designed during the property boom, when many people across the UK and Manchester were buying and selling houses, building and architecture firms were making large profits, and the main challenge was for first-time buyers struggling to get “on the ladder”.



There was a general air of hope as Manchester expanded its city centre living with Yuppy flats going up around the expanded centre and regeneration filtering East from the new Manchester City grounds and the rest of Sports City.



Even Openshaw’s homes had gone from dirt-cheap prices to more respectable ones, and by the time Manchester City Council started the Compulsory Purchase process of the estate, one house sale in 2006 for a 2-bed terrace was for £42,000 (previously bought in 2002 for £17,500).



But approaching the end of the Noughties, as the housing market started to collapse, lots of firms started going bust, and the recession kicked in, the demand for new houses – in Openshaw as well as other places – disappeared, with many residents wanting to stay put and ride out the economic tide.



And so with less demand for housing, the construction firm slowed down its building process, thereby creating an even longer process of waiting for those who had to move because of the impending demolition of their old houses.



And with Government focused almost entirely on cutting the deficit, state-support for projects like this has, naturally, dried up.



As we approach the new Financial (starting April 2011), this is likely to deepen further.



And the result for Tommy? It’s simple.

He must wait in his temporary house for 12-18 months at least. And then, maybe, he can move to his new home on the revamped Toxteth Street Estate.

Caught in limbo between the house he is in now and the where he needs/wants to be, Tommy’s housing situation resembles the rest of his life. Low morale, boredom, low motivation and poverty – coupled with some lapses in his own self-discipline to stay sober - have all left Tommy in no-man’s land.

It brings to mind the Proverb, “Hope deferred makes the heart sick”.

Tommy has only just realised that years ago his drinking had got so bad because of the amount he was drinking but also combining this with taking anti-depressants. He had not been aware of how the two are a dangerous combination. And now he is drinking a little, he says he is not involved in fights anymore, but still it damages his friendships with people who care too much to say nothing.

So what difference would a permanent re-housing make to Tommy? Would it really give him greater motivation – to take care of the house and strive for a job and a better future? I ask him this and he replies, “I would like to think I would really make my mark on the new property [if given one in the end]”.

And is there a cut-off point, when Tommy will give up waiting and go somewhere else? “Yes, definitely. I am already looking at other places, though what’s been offered is generally too small”

And housing stuff aside, I ask Tommy what he would like to happen in his life over the next year or two and he says, “To sober up, start living, enjoy my voluntary work again. I’ve not been… of any use to myself, let alone anyone else recently”

And the big question I had to ask was, “Do you really want a job?” Tommy’s reply is telling

 “Yes. Getting a job would be amazing. Holding one down is another thing”

He says the intent to work is there, but Tommy seems to doubt himself somewhat.

Which leads me to wonder whether Tommy’s worst enemy is not the Council or the Bottle or even the boredom, but himself.

Only time will tell.

Friday, 27 May 2011

Football, Fighting and Family

 Our new Youth Worker, Lawrence Bettany, was already running a weekly football night down at our local high school, before he became part of our staff team.

Now up to 25 people turn up to this, some volunteers and fitness freaks from our church, but mostly mid- to late-teens and a few young adults we know from the neighbourhood.

And after several months of matches, training and arguing over who owes their subs (each young person has to pay towards the costs of pitch hire and equipment) the guys have now had 2 matches (the first one a loss we few weeks ago, the second was a win on Monday) against a sister project in Hattersley.

Part of the struggle of youth - especially for young lads - is wrestling with the rules of engagement - fighting with "the system" - whether that's school, parents, police, any authority figures. And our lads are no exception.

But this Monday night I went to cheer them on and it was great to see them working together, encouraging each other for goals or good defending, and working towards a common goal (in this case beating Hattersley 5-2).

Football is like family, because in both there is always a bit of arguing. But what we really want to help build in East Manchester - something that is lost across many parts of Britain - is a sense of extended family, where even when we argue we do it well and then get on with each other after we've all said our piece.

In the first part of the Bible Moses brought down the 10 Commandments from Mount Sinai. However when Jesus of Nazareth emerged in 1st Century Palestine, he summed the 10 up with 2 simple but deeply challenging commands:
(1) Love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength, and
(2) Love your neighbour as yourself.

And as our faith in Jesus grows we want to love others and call them on to do the same with those they know, those they struggle with, even hate.

Well done, Lawrence and well done our lads.

Friday, 6 May 2011

Is the Christian message Really "Good News"?

Oh what joy for those whose rebellion is forgiven, whose sin is put out of sight!
Yes, what joy for those whose record the LORD has cleared of sin, whose lives are lived in complete honesty!
Psalm 32

For the prostitute who desperately wants to change, who knows she is living a dirty life and needs God to clean her up, who wants to live a holy life... The Gospel is very good news.
For the businessman who has lost his wife because of an affair he had away from home, and who feels empty and ashamed... The Gospel is very good news.
But for the self-confident, self-righteous person who thinks that, because he recycles, pays his taxes, gives to charity and doesn’t hurt others... The Gospel is irrelevant, silly, and makes no sense. It is also offensive, because it says the he is an enemy of God, and that he cannot better himself into God’s favour by simply trying hard.

The GOOD NEWS doesn’t come until – or unless - we’ve accepted the BAD NEWS, the uncomfortable truth – that we are all rebels who have broken God’s law and picked the wrong team.

The Gospel is actually BAD NEWS to the proud and the self-righteous. It is a crushing blow to the ego of mankind, and leaves no room for people to think they are “topping-up” an existing morality that is pretty good.

It is only GOOD NEWS once the person realises that, in the sight of a Holy, Just and Perfect God, their life is morally and spiritually bankrupt... Only then can they receive the riches of Heaven. Only then can they receive the grace of God that comes from Jesus’ death. Only then can they receive the justification we so need that comes from Jesus’ resurrection. Only then does the Good News really become Good News.

There was no resurrection without the crucifixion. The joy does not come in the morning until the night of weeping and pain. The reward of knowing God does not come until the dying to selfish living. The hope of salvation cannot come until the loss of confidence in our own goodness.

The religious man hopes – maybe assumes – that he is good enough for God, holy enough for Heaven. But the Christian knows he is no way near good enough. 
The religious man thinks that God owes him because he is living a good life. But the Christian knows God owes him nothing. 
The religious man hopes – maybe assumes – that he has earned God’s favour, prosperity and success. But the Christian knows all he has earned by his own efforts is death, and anything good that happens before then is a blessing and a gift from Above.
The religious men called for Jesus’ execution. But the Christians rejoice in His resurrection.

Saturday, 26 March 2011

Learning to count my blessings

It’s Saturday night and I’m soon off to bed. But before then, some thoughts are coming together...

The Bible teaches that we should give thanks to God because everything that is truly good comes from Him. But when we’re young we often feel invincible, immune from danger or tragedy, and can easily take for granted “small blessings” in any week, such as being healthy, no major accidents, having paid the bills, enjoyed the week’s work or study, and so on. And yet it’s only since becoming a dad and getting a bit older (I’m nearly 34) that I’ve become more aware of the fact that life is fragile, it’s up and down so quickly, and that I cannot take for granted everything running smoothly.
As I look back at the week just ended, I’m also aware that whatever I’ve been immersed in will effect who I am when I meet with other people in church tomorrow (Sunday).
  1. 1.       Will I have “something to bring” as the Apostle Paul describes it?
  2. 2.      Will I have a prophecy or a word of encouragement?
  3. 3.       Will I come grateful for the week’s chances God’s given me to share life, faith and hope with others?
  4. 4.       Will I come with a willingness to serve, listen to others and be alongside hurting people?
  5. 5.       Or will I just come as a consumer, hoping to “get something decent” out of the meeting, as though church was the spiritual vending machine and I pay my tithe so expect my weekly boost?

In this case, I’ve preached last Sunday and it went ok, I had 4 days of schools lessons in my local high school (helping to speak out against racism and in favour of loving our neighbour with roughly 120 kids), one day working from home/with my kids, and a Saturday Dad’s Breakfast, wedding and evening of wine and TV with my wife. My family and I have had no major accidents, my daughter may have chicken pox, but we’re otherwise ok, and whilst I’ve had a bit of stress running various errands, God has really helped me in my attempts to curb my road-rage.

This last week, in summary, had been really good, so I thank God for this with all my heart.
As I think about tomorrow, it’s a weird contradiction. Sunday is nothing and it is everything. Going to church doesn’t make someone a Christian just as going to a garage makes you a car. A Sunday service does not transform lives or neighbourhoods in itself, and yet what happens (or doesn’t) when we do  meet together is of extreme value and importance.

As we have scattered to various different places for work, family life, mission, etc, we now gather again to encourage each other, worship God and hear from the Bible. It’s like the largest intake of breath before we go back out into the world as missionaries, servants and activists.

And my prayer for tomorrow – for my church and everyone else’s – is that when we do meet,
  1. We would worship in spirit and in truth (i.e., a supernatural experience and not a ritualistic one, as well as people being honest with each other and with God not being false),
  2. We would spur each other on towards love and good deeds (as Paul says),
  3. We would be inspired by Jesus and by the Bible to follow in His footsteps
  4. We would share the hope of the Gospel (really well) with those who have turned up but don’t yet know that Jesus loves them, that He is calling them to follow Him, and that the cost of this is well worth it.


Night and God bless

Sunday, 6 March 2011

The Icing on the Cake

My typical week in work involves a wide variety of things, including

  1. time with my co-workers, some of which is running sessions, some of which is planning and prayer
  2. time driving people to medical or job-related appointments
  3. time on my own working on policy, funding or other administration


But the highlight of my week just gone was clear - doing Bible study with a kid from our Kids Club, aged 8, and  with another lad, aged 13, from the estate where we're based. As we do this we explore faith and a hope for the future.

The other jobs etc are, but this is the icing on the cake.

Friday, 4 March 2011

Parenting and Prayer Revisited

 
Things have moved on a little since my earlier blog post about Parenthood, Prayers and Post-It Notes.


My eldest child Sam, now almost 2 1/2, is having plenty of moments of, "No, it's not hers, it's mine" and the challenge to learn to share is as big as ever.


However he seems to get the idea of saying "Thanks" to Jesus in his prayers, then asking for Him to help other people, not just himself.


At the moment, one of his regular prayers is for his sister, 
"Thank You, Jesus, for this lovely, lovely food. And we pray... that you make Ruthie (his sister) happy. Amen"


We humans are all quite self-centered, and Sam is no exception, but he has a very kind side to him that is full of affection for his little sister, possibly an awareness that others who are smaller than he are in need of special care and attention. And my wife and I hope to nurture that as he grows up, so that he doesn't lost it, but it becomes a central part of who he is.


Before I became a Dad, I used to hate parents showing off about their "amazing" children, and I know I run the risk of sounding like that. But I am proud of my boy's growth in faith and in awareness of others. And he is gradually learning some foundational things that will help him become a real man when he is older.

Thursday, 20 January 2011

What makes a real man?


What makes a real man? 


In short, here are my 5 ideas

  1.        Real men tell the truth
  2.        Real men take responsibility
  3.        Real men love their families
  4.        Real men are humble
  5.        Real men set an example



 For the 5 in a little more detail...
1/ Real men tell the truth (wisely)
·        Boys lack the guts to say what needs saying
      Lads tell women what they think they want to hear
·           Bullies "tell the truth" by being harsh
      But real men are not only honest but also wise with what they say.

2/ Real men take responsibility
·         Playboys are just that, boys, but real men look at what needs doing and do all they can to make it happen.
·         Boys really just want to play, but men are happy to work first and then play.

3/ Real men love their families
·         Boys play the field and mess women around, but real men are actually kind to their partners and, if they have any, their kids.
·         Boys come and go, but real men commit for the long haul – they handle their business, (for example, if they are dads, they look after their kids) as the comedian Chris Rock says.

4/ Real men are humble
·         Boys try to do it on their own, but real men have the guts to admit when they need help – even if it means asking for directions off a stranger or for advice off a woman.
·         Boys are “never wrong” but real men admit when they have got it wrong.

5/ Real men lead by an example
·         Boys will lead other boys into trouble, but real men will show boys – and girls – how to live well.
·         Boys will want to shout and be in control, but real men will lead by their actions as well as their words


Click here for a great clip of Russell Crowe as a classic image of a man in Gladiator: but what are real mean actually like?


Click here for a great article on "Where have all the good men gone?" from the Wall Street Journal.



Having asked lots of different people, other suggestions made for what makes a real man are as follows: -

(1) Courage/bravery
(2) Owning up to things
(3) Maturity
(4) Has a range of emotions
(5) Unselfish
(6) Comfortable in silence
(7) Able to worship God without being awkward
(8) Being a defender
(9) Standing up for what he believes
(10) Strong but not afraid to be sensitive
(11) Leading from a place of weakness
(12) Independent but not proud to ask for help